It may sound depressing, but life keeps going on. Some people say that the world stopped when Covid hit, but it didn’t. We all still had to work, we still had to get food and other products and the world kept going on. When we die, the world keeps revolving and others still live their lives. The question we should ask ourselves is will we be happy with our lives when we look back on it.
As I scroll through social media, I can see all of the judgement people have towards others that they don’t even know. These judgements can affect some more than others. But why do we care? It’s our lives and we can live it the way we want to. We have grown to try and fit into these molds that society has set in place for us. All of these molds can look different, but your friends, family and acquaintances will judge you a certain way depending on how they see life should be lived.
Some of our actions or mold are from what we see, so it is hard to get out of that mold. But you can always change. You can change those molds, you can become the person you want to be. You first, need to stop listening to what people say about you. I saw a video recently where the guy was insulting people by telling them that he hated their blue hair. None of them had blue hair, so they didn’t care. Use that mentality when people insult you about things that they think of you. If you know that you are an unselfish person, but they say you are selfish then it won’t matter. You just have to be true to yourself and know who you are.
Be confident! Have some confidence in yourself, and life becomes so much easier. You can fake it until you make it and your brain will realize that the fake is reality and soon you won’t have to think about it. I have told myself repeatedly for years that I am a positive person, and it has now become a fact. At one point it wasn’t, but I have changed because I made myself believe it until it was true. You can do that with anything as long as you put in effort for a little bit of time.
One of my new things I want to try is by telling myself I am not a procrastinator. As long as I remind myself of that everyday, then I will work on the things that I have put off. By consciously telling myself I am not a procrastinator it will remind me to work on the things that I need to get done and not wait like I usually do. I will forever be reminding myself of that fact, but down the road it will just be apart of me and something I don’t need to think of often or force myself to act on.
So be who you want to be, become the person you want yourself to be. If it is something that needs teaching, then take a class. There are classes everywhere and you can learn so much from your computer at home. Since you are reading this, you are already making an effort to improve yourself and truly becoming the person you want to be.
We only have one life, and we should live it the way we want to. Not how others tell us to live it.
From Your Life Tutor
-Sam
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