Keeping a positive outlook on life is hard at times. I have struggled in the past with it. I always thought I was going to be a loner, and never amount to anything in my life. It was a hard change for me, but my life has been so much better since I forced myself to be more positive.
I met Shaun, and he was Mr. Positivity. I have met positive people in the past, but Shaun’s was addicting. I always felt that he was able to get everything he wanted, and nothing ever went my way. It made me so annoyed with him, but I just figured that was how life was going to be. I didn’t change my ways until 3 years into our relationship (this also coincides with me getting off of hormonal birth control, but that is a different story). I finally decided I wanted my life to be better, and the only way it would be, is if I was more positive.
I started with the main object in my life, Shaun. So, I thought about what made me think negatively about our relationship. The one main thing before Shaun, was that I wanted to move to Europe. Once I started dating him, it became obvious that it wasn’t going to happen as soon as I would have liked. I resented him for that reason, I felt like he was holding me back. As soon as I stopped thinking that way, I loved being with him more and decided to be thankful for not moving there yet. That negativity towards Shaun made me get agitated easily towards him. It wasn’t fair to him, because I chose to be with him and not leave. He gave me the option to leave whenever I brought up moving to Europe if I felt like it was going to make me happier, and I knew deep down it wouldn’t. It’s still a dream of mine and I know it will happen in the future.
I’m not saying give up on your dreams, but change the way you think about things or events, have a positive mindset and let that drive your actions. Having a more positive mindset, definitely helps you out in multiple ways. The people around me like to hang out with me more, because I’m not always complaining about everything and I am enjoying life. Life is short, and there is no point in being miserable while living it. Having a better attitude towards things, can help achieve those dreams more easily too.
The next item on my list that I wanted to be more positive about was going to the gym. I used to hate going to the gym, and Shaun didn’t want to bring me because of that. He told me I had to either be happier while we were there, otherwise he wouldn’t help me any longer. It was a huge wake up call. I pretended to enjoy it, but never really did until a year ago…when I decided to be more positive. The tasks that I used to hate, I now enjoy because of my attitude overall. I get upset when I don’t get to go to the gym, because I think of it as a positive activity now. I enjoy seeing myself get stronger, and I know to achieve that I have to go to the gym.
I don’t fully know when I didn’t have to force it anymore, but it’s easy now. I love living life! Everything seems to go my way now! Shaun and I have been doing amazing in life and I feel like the two of us can accomplish anything. It blows my mind that a simple change in attitude can affect everything in life.
GO ENJOY LIFE!
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