Are you doing the right things or are you doing what is comfortable? Have you been keeping up with the Joneses because you do not want to stray from the pack and do the things to separate yourself from the average person? It is easy, if you do not have a vision or goal you are chasing, to fall into the trap of everyday monotony.
You need to get clear about what you want. If you do not know where you are going, chances are high, you will be driving in circles. It is like the car analogy. Say you are taking a trip to Florida, would you get in your car and just start driving or would you pull up the maps, type in your destination, add stops along the way, at places you and the family think would be fun, then head out? This seems like common sense, it is a no brainer you would type in the destination. So, why the hell do you not have a destination for your life? The average life in the US is 77 and from what we know, you only get one of them. So, why would you not put in a destination with stops on the way?
It is easy to get caught up in going with the flow. You just let the days go by, you stay busy, you stay distracted, and this way you do not have to think about the future and how you may be wasting the present. It is uncomfortable to think about the future and how you may have wasted the last 5, 10, 20 years of your life. You may think its too late to start. However, I think it is like investing. The best time to start was 10 years ago, the second best time, is today. It is possible, you have already thought about all this and you want to make a change but you are embarrassed by what others may think.
Maybe you do not want to stray from the pack because then you will feel singled out. It is uncomfortable being different than the norm. It also takes effort swimming against the current, you usually have to deal with a lot of naysayers, especially people who are close to you who think they have your best interest in mind. Really, they are either looking to protect you because they love you and do not want you to get hurt or they are trying to validate their inaction by telling you not to take action or do “crazy” things.
Just remember, you only get one life. Most people are selfish and only care about themselves. Lets stop keeping up with the Joneses and doing what everyone else thinks is right. Pave your own path, think about your own destination in life, what stops would you like to take and start on your path. It is not too late to start today.
Swim against the current, you will find others doing the same, then you will have advocates for the life you really want.
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