Shaun and I have talked about visions quite often in our blogs and podcasts. It gives you an idea of where you want to go in the future. These visions should give you a road map of what you need to do now, so you can have what you want in the future. For anyone with ambition, it is very important to have an idea of where you are going, so you can put you focus and energy on the right tasks. This idea is so new to me, that I struggle with deciding what I want my vision to be.
Before I met Shaun, I never thought hard about the future. I had one dream and that was to live in Europe. Never did I think about what I would do there for work, or where I would go, how much it would cost to move, what I needed to live there. There was no plan at all, I just thought it would land in my lap and poof I would move there. With my lack of planning or vision, I never would have made it to Europe or I wouldn’t have been successful at all. There was no focus or energy on the right things, instead of doing the research I should have been, I decided it was better to party and hang out with my friends.
Looking back now, I was so naïve and full of wishful thinking. I had this dream and that is all that mattered. Now, I still do struggle thinking about the future but in a different way and I don’t know if it is because my unsuccessfulness of my first big dream. My main problem is that I am afraid to dream too big and not make it a reality. I had a big dream before and it failed me, so now I don’t want to have those again to avoid disappointment in the future. Or as I am writing this, I’m starting to realize it might be a lack of ambition. Not that I don’t have any, but where I am right now is not where I imagined myself 10 years ago.
I saw myself traveling around Europe and experiencing life to its fullest. I never imagined that I would be getting married or have the potential to have a family. I am not saying this is a bad thing or that I didn’t want it, but it is something I never saw coming. So my lack of ambition comes from being in the unknown. It still confuses me that I have ended up with my dream guy and we are investing in real estate and soon to be married. I am in new territory that could honestly allow us to do almost anything we want in life. Shaun has brought out my ambition to do what I truly want and reminds me that I don’t need to work at a job, I can create my own career path in exactly what I want.
Maybe now that I have reflected on why I have had a lack of passion or designing my future, I will be able to mold and design what it is I see myself doing in 10 years. Hopefully this time I will be much closer in my vision and not in the unknown like I am today. Remember, if you shoot for the stars you will at least land on the moon. So don’t be disappointed in where you end up, but at least be happy you made improvement.
From Your Life Tutor
-Sam
Tutors of Life 