We have all had those moments where you fuck something up and you freak out about it. Usually, there is a cuss word and “this always happens to me” to go with it. Yes, at the time you feel super upset but how do the people that had to witness you freak out feel? If there is one thing that I have learned as time has gone by, someone is always watching. It doesn’t matter who or what is watching, your meltdown can still affect them and yourself.
Being able to remain calm is very useful in stressful situation and when you have to think quick on your feet. It also is a good example to set for your children. I remember growing up and witnessing my family getting super mad whenever they screwed up. Whenever those times happened, I always escaped into my room to avoid any extra wrath. Later on in life, there has been some times where I have acted the same. I started to think about how I hated being around someone who acted like that. It really made me stop getting angry about things and I started to just try to think of a solution.
Obviously, that’s that the easiest thing in the world to do. Most people, once they get mad, it’s hard to think more clearly. But with practice and time it will get easier and easier. Below are some ways to help remain calm:
Breath:
This one is pretty simple, but when we get angry we take shorter breaths. If we take a few longer breaths, it helps ease the anger and move on.
Think the situation through:
Before you should even start reacting, you should immediately think of other options. Think through these scenarios from beginning to end.
Drop your shoulders:
Our body language can easily affect how we are feeling. So, if your shoulders are up high then you are tensing your body and effecting your posture. But if you just drop your shoulders and take a few breaths, you can feel much calmer very quickly.
Talk it out:
Another thing that I have found handy is just trying to talk it out. Sometimes, if you let the person know that you are upset and need to talk things out, people can be accepting to help. I have found it very therapeutic to talk out loud and then I am able to think more clearly.
Whatever you preferred method to calm down is, there will be times that we will still struggle with being calm and that is okay. But you need to remember, there will always be someone watching. SO be careful with who you want to see you at your worst, because it could affect someone in a way you didn’t expect. The point of being aware of it, is to help improve yourself. Become a better person, and the world around you may have a different look to it.
Keep pushing yourself
From Your Life Tutor
-Sam
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